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Brenda Novak's Tips for Valentine's Day.

February 14, 2011

Brenda Novak is not only a NY Times Bestselling Author, she is also generous, loving, and family orientated. 

She runs an annual auction for Juvenile Diabetes, her son’s medical condition, raising money for much needed research. I love buying author orientated things eg agent and editor critiques.  ( see my next post for details) 

     I bow to her wisdom and generosity of spirit. The world needs more ‘Brendas’.

     PS.  I also bow to her wonderful assistant, Anna, who has gone out of her way to help.    

               Love and hugs to everyone, 

                       Suzi Love

        Here are Brenda Novak’s great Valentine’s Day tips .

  1. Avoid negative thought patterns. Allowing yourself to mentally or verbally tear down your significant other is like gnawing at the bond that holds you together.
  2. Remember that this person means more to you than anyone else — including your parents and your kids. People who live their entire lives for their children are often disappointed to find that they have no relationship left once the kids head out on their own.
  3. Be more flexible and forgiving with your spouse than mere friends and neighbors. We expect our spouses to “understand” our stress or limitations (in other words, put up with our crap). Instead, reserve your patience and kindness for the person who means the most to you.
  4. Understand that relationships work on a spiral: the more thoughtful you are with your loved one, the more fulfilled and happy he/she will be, and the more he/she will be interested in giving back to you.
  5. Don’t get too practical. Some couples forego the flowers, the cards, the dinner dates and the chocolates in favor of saving money. But what’s worth more to you? A few bucks (or even a house or a car) or a relationship that will likely affect your whole life and the lives of your children?
  6. Try to do something nice for your spouse every day, even if it’s just a chore he or she typically does. These thoughtful touches will act like a hedge against the tough times.
  7. Be physical, touch a lot, even when there’s no chance that it will escalate into a sexual encounter. These little reminders that a spouse cares are nurturing to the soul and send wonderful signals to your children. Your kids will feel secure and happy because you’re secure and happy, and they’ll be more loving because of the example you’ve set.
  8. Remain loyal. Have the grit it takes to stick together through thick and thin.
  9. Be unselfish. It might seem otherwise, but life isn’t all about you, how you’re feeling and what you want. Worry more about whether you’re being a good spouse than whether your spouse is being a good mate to you, and you’ll be glad you did.
  10. Take care of yourself. You don’t have to be model-thin or in the first blush of youth, but be the best you can be-mentally and physically. In other words, be someone you’d like to be with.
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